But you're more mature and probably confindent lol I just feel like it's a form of cheating! The guys look attractive but I dont fantasize myself going there. Why would married couple go to a strip club? The only way to get more information about this is to have a grown up conversation about this trip and your feelings and to get his direct perspective on how he viewed this trip and how he feels about you. Of course there are exceptions to that rule, but it's the exceptions that prove that a rule exist.